Welcoming the Perfect Storm

Brian Holloway - Wednesday, January 11, 2012

The entry below was written by Brenda Forney, an employee of The Arc of Spokane.  Brenda shares her experience helping Penny Cannon, a local artist and client of The Arc's Residential Support program, realize her life-long dream of geting a tattoo.  Thank you, Brenda. 

Penny Cannon flowed into my life like a beautiful tsunami with an infectious smile, a husky giggle and an enthusiastic, "Hi, I'm Penny!"  She took my hand as firmly and confidently as a prosecuting attorney, but had the warm energy of a joyful, old soul.  These were all traits that told me I was, happily, about to be hit hard by this large force of nature cleverly disguised in a petite frame.  Logic dictates that you should run from an oncoming tsunami, but when the wave coming at you is Penny, who can expect you to do anything but stand on the beach with a grin on your face, stretch out your arms and brace for impact?

Once the waters receded, and after I had regained my footing and wrung out my hair, I received another surprise.  The powerful wave that had just knocked me on my back side had also depoited an incredible treasure that was now standing before me.  Penny's vibrant personality outshined any gold, and her animated outlook on life out-sparkled any gem.  When I really got to know Penny, I learned about her massive weight-loss victory and her passion and skills with art.  That treasure had turned out to be a king's ransom! 

During the first of her art shows, which my husband and I attended, we were quickly blown away by the sheer beauty of it all.  Penny’s colorful canvases and prints lined the walls and partitions.  If I knew more about art I might use words to describe her work like impressionistic or abstract, but since the extent of my knowledge falls short of layman, I’m more prone to buy art because it evokes an emotion in me than because it is a good example of an accepted standard.  Penny’s work always falls within my personal standard because it makes me smile, ponder or stare in awe—the same three reactions other admirers carry on their faces when they peruse Penny’s paintings and probably the same emotions people display when they first see the Mona Lisa.

With all of Penny’s accomplishments her family and support team thought it only fitting to surprise her by granting a long-time wish of hers.  They were going to support Penny getting a tattoo for her 50th birthday.  She had been pushing her family for a decade to let her get one.  Year after year she chipped away at their resolve until they finally relented, recognizing that Penny wasn’t going to.  Besides, her 50th birthday was a huge milestone that may not have been reached if she hadn’t worked so hard to lose a hundred pounds and get healthy.  Her medical providers were all consulted and not only did they say that it was fine for Penny to receive a tattoo, they all gave her a big "Woo Hoo!"  It was time to trust Penny when she said that this was what she truly wanted.

Back in 1987, at the age of 23, I collected my first tattoo in order to spread my rebellious wings and have a fond childhood memory immortalized permanently on my body.  I wasn’t in the right mind set then to fully appreciate the inspired talent it took to be a good tattooist, but as the years passed and my stack of happy memories began to teeter precariously from the skyscraping heights it had grown to, I knew the time to transfer a few of them to my skin had finally arrived.

The hunt was on to find the perfect person that would be able to accurately interpret my vision and then place that vision, with inks and needles, onto my ankles with the masterful skill of Da Vinci himself.  Not a tall order in my opinion.

After going through more than twenty five local tattoo artists’ portfolios I came across one woman’s large collection of photos showcasing her gorgeous work.  Her colors and compositions were breathtaking, but what sold me on her was one of two pictures that had her in it.  She had gentle eyes and a genuine smile that gave me the impression she was as down-to-Earth as she was skilled.  Her name was Joy, and she had recently opened Skin Candy Tattoo. A quick call to set up an appointment turned into fifteen minutes of intelligent and animated conversation.  It was then that I knew three things: 1) I had picked the right person, 2) I was now being introduced to another force of nature, and 3) Joy and Penny had to meet.

When I initially saw Joy I instantly grinned—not just from her modern yet unique, hair and clothes, but also because her skin was brightly adorned in ink from neck to finger tips.  Thoughts, dreams, desires and sorrows covered most of her exposed skin in mingling jewel-tones and shades of black.  Like reading her autobiography, I studied her tattoos wrapping around her arms.  Most people may not have felt comfortable doing this, feeling like they are being too visually invasive, but one of the special aspects of the modern tattoo culture is that when the observer appreciates someone else’s ink, they are complimenting the bearer of that ink on a very personal level.

Almost a year later, Joy and I have become good friends, making my first impression of her correct.  Joy is sweet, open, humble and wiser than her years should dictate, but she is also another creative tempest.  Her work is more incredible than I could have hoped to wear, and I constantly feel honored to display it.

When I first approached Joy about Penny, I brought some of her artwork with me. Joy was all for doing Penny’s tat as long as she wanted it and her guardian sanctioned it.  But after studying some of Penny’s art, Joy rethought her initial decision and opted, instead, for more verification that this was actually Penny’s desire, not someone else’s interpretation of her wishes.

Joy’s attitude toward Penny seemed to change, somehow, the more she looked at her printed paintings.  That’s when I understood that Joy didn’t see Penny as just a potential client anymore, but also as a fellow artist and would treat her with that due respect.  With that in mind we set up two appointments.  The first would be just a meet-and-greet so Joy could be satisfied that Penny was absolute in her decision, and at the second she’d actually do the tattoo.

The day of the first appointment Penny, one of her support staff and I had a few minutes before Joy got there, so we spent that time trying to get Penny to pick where and what she wanted inked.  Every time Penny was asked what she wanted, she replied with a different animal, from Mickey Mouse to a zebra.  And every time she was asked where she wanted it placed, she would motion to her entire torso, her full back, each arm and both legs.  Then she would throw her head back and laugh with a gusto that only Penny could summon, and the both of us laughed right alongside her with an intensity that only Penny could induce.

We finally got her to decide on her right upper arm for the placement, but when it came to picking the subject of the tat, all we could get her to narrow it down to was enough animals to fill the San Diego Zoo and every cartoon character Walt Disney has ever created.  We desperately tried to help Penny decide by asking about specific animals she had mentioned more than the others.  Nope. She now wanted some other animal she hadn’t even listed before!  The rest of the time waiting became just a blur of Penny shouting out another creature and the three of us roaring with laughter.

Once Joy arrived the introductions began and the laughter only continued.  For several hours Penny and Joy talked and giggled with each other, sometimes forgetting anyone else was there.  I couldn’t help but smile at the number of times we were forgotten, and then suddenly Penny and Joy would rediscover our presence and look at us like we were three headed aliens that had just landed on their planet ART.

Joy showed Penny all of her equipment and supplies, and Penny listened intently, taking it all in.  Then the big moment of the appointment came when Joy asked her what she wanted as her tattoo.  The other staff member and I held our collective breath.  The list of animals started spilling from Penny’s lips as I grinned and tried to stifle my chuckle. Joy listened until Penny took a breath of her own and then softly said "How about a heart?"

Penny grinned from ear to ear and yelled "looooove it!"

The decision had at last been made!  And it wasn’t even an animal! Before leaving that day, after Joy and Penny had spent some time choosing the stylized heart that would get inked on her upper arm, Joy made a stencil and put a temporary tattoo on Penny so she could walk out of there wearing her future tat. How appropriate that Penny chose a heart for her arm, since she has always worn her heart on her sleeve anyway.

A few days later I called my friend to discuss Penny’s next appointment.  She informed me that she no longer had any reservations that Penny was passionate about her tattoo, and then she thanked me for bringing such an amazing artist into her life.  Joy explained that she looked at her greeting cards and calendar on a daily basis, and every time she did it touched her deeply.  Then she announced to me she wouldn’t take a monetary payment for giving Penny her ink, but she would love to get some of her artwork as trade instead.

When I spoke to Penny’s support staff about this arrangement they were all for it, even though picking one of Penny’s paintings to pay the tattooist was a daunting task.  Then one of the staff came up with the perfect painting to give her.  Penny had only made one painting that contained any words.  It was a gorgeous work consisting of bright greens, yellows and oranges surrounding one word . . . "JOY".

On the big day of Penny’s second appointment, eight of us showed up to Skin Candy Tattoo.  There were mixed emotions before the inking started, from excited anticipation (Penny and me) to nerve-induced nausea (Penny’s sister and guardian).  Penny said she was a "tough cookie" and could handle any pain and was so excited to get started she was positively vibrating.  Well, she was right, she is a tough cookie—as evidenced by the fact that she fell asleep during her tat! I could NEVER do that!

Afterward, I went by Joy’s shop and spoke to her about the whole experience with Penny.  A friend of hers had stopped by to visit, and Joy immediately started telling her all about Penny and showing her the artwork.  I listed to Joy for several minutes describe how remarkable a person and artist Penny was.  Suddenly, I realized she had omitted what I thought was an important piece of information, so I told Joy’s friend that she also had a developmental disability.

Joy threw a loaded look at me that said both, "That’s irrelevant" and "Poor thing; you’re really clueless."  It was then that another tsunami struck me with the force of a hundred epiphanies.  I WAS clueless.  The language of creativity these two masters spoke was one that I could never learn, let alone speak.

I thought Penny being so talented AND having a developmental disability made her a better painter.  With one facial expression Joy communicated to me that Penny’s paintings are what made her an amazing artist, and the unique way that Penny sees the world and expresses it is what made her special—just like Joy, and just like any other great artist.  Like I said, it was a loaded look.

I then understood that in Joy’s eyes Penny’s disabilities was only a drop of inconsequence that fell into her life at birth, but that drop was forgotten once it joined the vast pool that held her artistic and personal abilities.  And I thought I was going to educate Joy.

Now that these two exceptional people have united as friends and colleagues, my role in this is complete.  I know from this point on I will only be a better informed outsider, lucky to have played a small part in seeding the promising clouds that currently form above me.  I look to the horizon with renewed anticipation for those familiar signs of an approaching creative storm.  I’ll dig my heels in the sand, watch the waters ebb, my arms again outstretched, and as their combined wave crashes over me I’ll realize . . . I’m so grateful to be drenched . . . .

Valley House

Brian Holloway - Thursday, November 10, 2011

I went to Valley House looking for one story and found another.

There’s not much to it—the house, that is.  It’s a single-level rancher in Spokane Valley set away from the road a short distance with vinyl siding and shutters, just like any house in any residential neighborhood.  The only real difference from others on the street is the absence of steps at the front door.  Being level with the ground makes it possible to move the wheelchairs of the five people who live at Valley House in and out with relative ease.  Steps are out of the question here.

"Valley House" is the name The Arc of Spokane has given this 2,500 square foot home where five people with significant developmental disabilities live with support from nurses and aides from The Arc of Spokane.  It is one of seven homes in Spokane where The Arc provides daily living support through its Residential Support program.  Some people come to us in their 40s or 50s; others are in their early 20s when they arrive.  If the home they settle into is a good fit, they generally stay their entire lives.  Their abilities range from what you might call "pretty independent" (able to move and communicate without help) to almost entirely dependent on the qualified nursing staff who care for them day and night.

The five people who live at Valley House fall into the latter category.  That is, their disabilities are such that movement is often difficult for them.  And I’m not talking about walking to the refrigerator to get a soda.  For these folks, simply sitting up in a chair is virtually impossible without help.  Which means much of the day for them is spent either lying down in bed or seated in a wheelchair.  Staff members must be careful to reposition them frequently to prevent bedsores from developing.  We generally call these kinds of disabilities profound since they turn the tasks most people do without thinking—like scratching an itch—into monumental feats of strength and endurance.

And that’s what makes Valley House unique among supported living facilities for people with developmental disabilities.  Some professionals who work with people with profound disabilities believe they are better cared for in an institutional environment—which provides something more like hospital care than home care.  That these five people are living in a "community living" environment, a home in the community where they participate as much as possible in activities outside their home, bucks that trend.  The story of Valley House’s success—or rather the success of those who live there—is remarkable, and it is the story I went there to get.

Brenda, the manager, greeted me at the door and let me in.  Inside, the house looked like any other: there was a comfortable sofa in the living room, a television set and a bookcase filled with books and photos.  The kitchen and dining area was modest but functional.

"This is Kelli," Brenda said, introducing me to a young woman lying in a recliner.  She was pretty, and the fashionable red blouse she wore revealed her greatest passion.  "We call her the Diva," Brenda continued, "because she loves clothes and has to wear the latest fashion."

"Oh, really?" I said.  Kelli’s eyes were looking away from me, toward a corner of the room.  "Hi, Kelli," I said, but she didn’t respond.

"And this is Aaron.  He’s a man’s man.  He likes Harley-Davidson motorcycles and listens to opera."  Aaron was also reclining, a blanket covering most of his body, and looking in a different direction.

"Hi, Aaron," I said.  He made no response.

And so I met everyone in the house: Megan (pronounced "MEE-gan"), who can’t get enough of country music star Carrie Underwood; Whitney, who has dark hair and loves to be near the water, something I personally can relate to; and Stephanie, whom Brenda says is the optimist of the group, always lighthearted and positive.

As a parent of a child with a developmental disability, I feel pretty comfortable around others with unique needs, but I have to admit that meeting Kelli, Aaron, Megan, Whitney and Stephanie was more than I could comprehend in the moment.  I was speechless, pondering in the back of my mind how someone so confined within their own body could exist, let alone be passionate about something.  I had to wonder what life was like for them, and doing so made me feel unsettled, like I was perched on the edge of a dangerously high cliff, a sort of self-awareness vertigo.  I think that everyone who meets a person with a developmental disability for the first time feels this way to some degree.  It poses a question that strikes at the very heart of what it means to be human, and it can be frightening to look at.

Seated in Brenda’s office, I got the remarkable story of Valley House: Before it was managed by The Arc, care for the people who lived at Valley House was driven by the commonly held notion that people who are medically fragile should be protected from virtually everything.  Going outside was limited as much as possible.  Anyone who wanted to visit a resident had to be in good health, and touching was not allowed without a thorough hand-washing.  And whenever a resident had to go to the hospital for an illness, hospital staff were not allowed to provide personal care; the house always sent a person to watch over them day and night.

Of course, the motive behind such close care was the well-being of the residents.  It should be noted that staff members at Valley House spend more time with the residents than they do their own families.  To say that they care deeply for their clients is an understatement.  So they were cautious because they truly cared.  But in spite of their best efforts, emergency trips to the hospital because of illness occurred two to three times a year.  Given the residents’ medically fragile condition, this was regarded as more or less the norm.  Nevertheless, such trips only increased the anxiety staff felt about their health.

When a sudden crisis forced the owner of the house to give up control in 2005, it looked like Kelli, Aaron, Megan, Stephanie and Whitney would have to be separated—a disastrous outcome as far as staff was concerned.  "Most of our folks started living together as infants and young children at St. Anne’s," Brenda explained, "so all they’d ever been through, they had conquered together."

Convinced that the emotional trauma of being separated would be too much for the residents to bear, staff members feared they would not live long away from one another.  "I was in need of daily doses of antidepressants the size of hockey pucks," Brenda recalls.  "Staff would hide in the bathrooms weeping.  Need I emphasize the point that it was a tough time for all?"

Just when things seemed bleakest, The Arc of Spokane agreed to take over operations at the house.  A long-time leader in the effort to promote community living as a model for long-term care for adults with developmental disabilities, The Arc brought a unique philosophy to residential support operations.  Well equipped for the task, The Arc began overseeing Valley House in the summer of 2005.

Transitioning from one style of management to another is never easy, and it took a manager with the right combination of grit and warmth to win the trust of Valley House staff.  Her name was Tammy, and her way of doing things struck at the root of conventional wisdom about caring for people with profound disabilities.  She called it "The Arc Way."

What Tammy wanted was for the five residents of Valley House to experience more of life than they had previously been allowed to.  She talked about them going on outings, having parties, meeting people, and experiencing new things—radical ideas for a group of people who were considered too fragile to leave the house.

Naturally, staff members were resistant.  Brenda recalls: "It was really hard because we could play the medical card.  We’d say, ‘We don’t think this is a good idea for these medical reasons.’  Most of it was baloney.  We were just scared about them being out in the community, about losing control of their environment."

The breaking point came one slushy April morning in 2008.  It was the morning of the first Community Fun Run, a three-mile run along the Centennial Trail designed to encourage social inclusion for people with developmental disabilities.  The brainchild of the Inclusion Network, a volunteer group working through The Arc of Spokane, the Community Fun Run had one objective: to give people with and without disabilities a reason to rub shoulders.  Their hope was that somewhere along the trail a friendly smile and "hello" might breach the barrier that seems to separate those with disabilities and those without.  At Tammy’s insistence, the residents of Valley House were scheduled to go.

But that morning, two inches of snow had covered the world in a thick, soggy blanket.  "It was a blizzard," Brenda recalls.  "It was horizontal snow, and that was one of the times when Tammy and I had it out. I told her, ‘This is absolutely ridiculous.  Our clients do not need to be out in that!’"  But Tammy put her foot down.

"I’m going to veto you," she said.  "They need to go."  So Kelli, Aaron and Megan went to the Community Fun Run in spite of the dreadful weather, Brenda and her staff pushing their wheelchairs through the storm on a stretch of the Centennial Trail that parallels the Spokane River.  She remembered it vividly:

"We brought umbrellas to keep the snow off them, but it was blowing and the umbrella was buckling.  So I finally gave up because I couldn’t push and hold the umbrella at the same time.  And that’s when snow started getting into one of the ladies’ faces.  Flakes were falling into her eyebrows and mouth, just bombarding her.  I panicked for a second, wondering what she would do.  And then she pulled her head back and started laughing.  And that’s when I realized that in her 22 years of life, she had never felt snow on her face.  Of course, her laughter was contagious, and pretty soon all of the clients were laughing and giggling.

"Before I realized it, we were passing the finish line, and I was just blown away.  I thought to myself, ‘Tammy’s right.  She’s so right.  I have denied them things.’  What I called protection was actually denial; it was denying them new experiences.  These clients have every right to experience a blizzard in their face.  A few snowflakes might not be something huge, but when you have so few experiences in your life, something like that is profound."

Brenda smiled and added, "We haven’t missed a Fun Run since."

I had to wipe my eyes.  Then Brenda explained the benefits of this radical philosophy of residential care for people with profound disabilities: Not only are the five people who live at Valley House happier when they get to have snow fall on their face, when water splashes on them during a cruise on Lake Coeur d’Alene, or when they feel the rhythm of a live band at a summer block party—they’re healthier.

"I think we’ve had one emergency trip to the hospital in the past two years," Brenda says—a substantial change over the two to three trips per year they used to experience.  She adds: "It’s not even just their health we see changes in.  They engage the staff much more.  They act more cognizant of people and events happening around them.  They have really contributed to educating the general public on people with developmental disabilities.  They have very active social lives and have developed personal relationships with others outside of Valley House.  One of our people is now a working model with her first layout in an international magazine!  They don’t just exist anymore, they truly live."

As an advocacy-based organization, an important part of our work to improve the quality of life for people with developmental disabilities has been helping to establish community living as a viable alternative to life-long institutionalization for people with even profound disabilities.  We haven’t always made friends along the way.  Some have accused us of jeopardizing people’s health and safety by taking them out of the hospital environment, or of being motivated by financial interest.  That is not the case.  As always, The Arc’s primary motive has always been what is best for the individual.  While we recognize that a community living environment might not be ideal for everyone, if the story of Valley House teaches us anything, it’s that under the right conditions people with even profound disabilities can enjoy rich and meaningful lives in a home in a neighborhood that looks just like yours and mine—without sacrificing anything in quality of care.

The Arc has always pushed the envelope of what we believe people with developmental disabilities can achieve, if given the opportunity.  Where would we be if we hadn’t?  Capable children would have no place in our schools; thousands of hardworking people would never have had a chance to prove their worth in the workplace; and we might never have made possible the countless opportunities that exist today for people with developmental disabilities to achieve truly wonderful things in their lives.

That’s the story I went to Valley House to get.

The other story—the one that gave me vertigo—has troubled me for weeks now, and I don’t know if it can ever be put into words.  Perhaps some heights are simply too great to look down from for very long.

But if I were to peek just for a moment, I would relate another story that reflects something of the quality of life for everyone at Valley House, residents as well as staff.  It happened just after a close member of Brenda’s family had passed away.  Refusing to miss work, Brenda arrived as usual in spite of the tidal wave of emotion welling inside her.  Struggling to maintain composure, her will eventually gave way and Brenda found herself overwhelmed.

It was then that she felt a touch to her hand.  Looking down, she found that Whitney, the resident of Valley House who finds solace near water, for whom sitting up is a monumental feat of strength and endurance, seeing Brenda grieving, reached out her hand and touched her.  A simple gesture of comfort, in its context it became so much more, defying the boundaries of body and mind and bringing into perfect focus the real value of any meaningful relationship.

Everyone has something to offer.  Everyone.
_____________________________


Brian Holloway
Spokane, Washington

    Find Us on Facebook
    United Way Partnership
    Home | About | Contact | Forum | Legislators | Roadmap | Newsletters | Resources | Blog | Human Resources
    509.328.6326 | 320 E. 2nd Ave., Spokane WA
    © 2011. Site powered by Legacy IC.